The bubble burst. Never has a phase been more appropriate in my life than when I left university. I had sailed through high school surrounded by praise and encouragement from great teachers and a good support system of friends. I then survived university with lots of laughs, alcohol and the realization that my dreams would soon be met. The possibilities were endless. We were led to believe that we could achieve great things and that university would open all sorts of doors for us. This is utter pants. It doesn't. You and 300,000 other graduates, all with good A Levels and an average 2:1 degree are in the same boat looking for a job, ideally in their specialized subject. And so the next stage of your life begins, the part you had been avoiding, the one the adults had always called...The Real World.
|Such a cheesy geek!|
My search for a job was challenging to say the least. Unfortunately my family had no connections in the film and television world, so there was no way I was getting a look in there. I hadn't actually achieved anything as far as acting was concerned, so my resume was pretty dismal- I auditioned for the presenters role on ITV's Diggit, but Fern Cotton got it- didn't quite stand out as 'experience' (that job should have been mine! Not that I'm bitter). When I received a rejection letter from Big Top Productions, explaining that my performance skills weren't quite applicable to a travelling circus, I knew I had lost the plot. How many people can say they were rejected from the circus? I don't like clowns anyway, it would never have worked out.
Down the scale I quickly fell, applying for anything from receptionist to toilet cleaner and still no success. So I did what every other unemployed ex-student does when they are depressed about having no job, no money and no prospects. I went on holiday.
|The summer that steered my future|
And it was in sunny old Spain, lying on a sunbed, that I had some sort of eureka moment...(I have a lot of these moments. As soon as I have an idea or thought, I follow it through with lots of love and passion. Shame the same can't be said for exercise...I doubt very much I'll ever be having a eureka moment about signing up for a marathon). Sorry back to the sunbed- I decided that I could use my organising skills, my love for events and people to create my own business. Be my own boss. I could become a wedding planner. If J Lo can do it- why can't I?
|Wedding cringe moment: |
an usher asking to check if my bum is anything like J Lo's! So embarrassing!
On my return to London, I signed up for a short course in wedding planning and before I knew it Belle Wedding Co-ordinators was created.
|My first wedding fair- promoting Belle Wedding Co-ordinators|
|It's all in the details!|
|My favorite theme: Autumn Falls|
It was hard work. Mostly to start with, because the concept of a wedding planner was so unheard of in my circles. Only the rich and famous hired a wedding planner. But I knew what I offered could be tailored and suited to everyone and their budgets; what I provided was a unique and affordable service, one that all my brides and grooms valued immensely.
And I loved it. Every aspect of it was challenging and rewarding. Some brides wanted my blood (phone calls at 11pm to discuss if we had chosen the right cravat colours were triffic!) and others were simply gorgeous. I was lucky enough to meet some amazing people; couples whose love stories I fell in love with, their beautiful families who treated me with kindness and respect and some talented suppliers who worked hard and shared the same passion and visions for each individuals big day. I generally got to share in a lot of love.
Looking back now, I realize that it's ok for the bubble to burst. And it can happen at any time and at any moment in lives, whether it be in school, work, love, or friendship. These moments make us stronger. We need to discover for ourselves who we are and what we can achieve in our lives. The fall might be hard and sharp at first, but when you get to that moment and realise what you have accomplished, its a great feeling and the journey is always worth it.
As part of Miss Enchanting's Blog, I would like to share with you some key moments and stories from my time as a wedding planner, along with some creative ideas that can be used for weddings and events. If you have any questions or suggestions for a wedding related feature, please don't hesitate to email me.